Wild Crazy Meaningful Life
Our mission is to help spiritual world-changers live wild crazy meaningful lives. But what does it mean to live a wild crazy meaningful life? And how do you do it?
Last time we talked about wild, so let’s dig into crazy.
Living a crazy life
Living a crazy life is what it may look like from the outside when you unchain yourself, because you’re no longer acting in a way that makes everyone around you feel comfortable. But on the inside, it doesn’t feel crazy at all – it feels peaceful, adventurous, creative, free.
I mean, let’s be honest here. How many times have you looked at my life and thought, “Whoa, that is crazy!”
- I transitioned from male to female.
- I quit my day job to change the world full-time.
- We sold 95% of our stuff and moved into an RV.
- 6 months later, we moved out of the RV and re-bought a bunch of stuff we had just sold. Like furniture.
Look me in the eye and tell me you don’t think any of that is crazy. *waits* I’m looking around here, and I don’t see any eyes. (Damn, that would be creepy as fuck if I did.)
But here’s the kicker: The thought “Whoa, that is crazy!” is always followed by the thought
“I could never do that.”
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not urging you to genderbend, quit your job, or live in an RV.
I’m urging you to ask yourself, “Is that really true?”
And not about my crazy life – about yours.
What have you daydreamed about, and thought, “Wow, wouldn’t it be awesome if ________? But that’s crazy. I could never do that.”
Is that really true?
Every single one of my crazy life events started out with the thought “Whoa, that is crazy! I could never do that.”
Every. Single. One.
And it didn’t feel crazy on the inside.
I sometimes had a moment of “Whoa, is this really happening?” but most of the time I felt excited, stressed, joyful, peaceful… I felt the same way I felt when my life was relatively normal, but more so.
Let’s make it personal.
Have you ever felt that way about a person? Have you ever thought “Whoa, he is crazy! I don’t want to be like him.”
I have. I’ve felt that way about lots of people, and I’ll give you an example: Jonathan Fields.
Jonathan Fields is crazy.
The first 8 times I met Jonathan Fields in person, we exchanged drive-by hugs as he was walking extremely rapidly from one place to another during a conference. I read his book Uncertainty, in which he talks about the difficulty of finding time to spend with your family when you’re so frickin’ busy doing all these amazing things. I felt both attracted and repulsed. I felt attracted to his adventurousness and passion, but I felt repulsed by his… well… craziness. Like an adrenaline junkie, always rushing about, always super busy… he’s got to be stressed out all the time!
I thought to myself, “Whoa, he is crazy! I don’t want to be like him.”
So I asked myself, “Is that really true?”
I sat Jonathan Fields in a mental courtroom to be judged guilty or not guilty of being crazy. I called witnesses to the stand to testify for or against him. And the witness said, “Dude! Jonathan Fields is, like, totally chill. He did yoga for a living for a decade. Like, look into his eyes, dude. Are those the eyes of an adrenaline junkie?” So I handed the witness a surfboard, and the verdict was…
Jonathan Fields is not crazy.
You see, it’s not really about Jonathan – it’s about me. My initial snap judgment of Jonathan as “crazy” was more about my own fears than about Jonathan himself. It was about my fear of losing my comfort, and my limiting belief that to achieve success, I must sacrifice all of my comfort.
I was projecting my own fears onto Jonathan. My judgment of his character wasn’t really about him, but a reflection of my own paradigm. By othering Jonathan as “crazy”, I was applying paradigm glue. I was shoring up my belief that “you can’t be both successful and comfortable” by telling myself the story that Jonathan must be supremely uncomfortable, always in a rush and stressed out.
And when I set out on my own adventures that looked crazy from the outside… I didn’t feel crazy on the inside. I felt stressed sometimes, but most of the time I felt passionate, engaged, peaceful, and free.
“Crazy” is a mirror.
So the next time you notice yourself thinking, “Whoa, he is crazy! I don’t want to be like him.”
Remember to ask yourself:
“Is that really true?”