I used to take communication for granted. I talk, you talk, we talk. We’re both speaking English, so naturally we’re understanding each other all the time. You get me, I get you, we communicate.
It was only when I learned about effective communication that I really understood how very poor my communication skills had previously been!
We may be speaking the same general language, but I’m speaking Kyeli and you’re speaking You. My definitions for words might be similar or vastly different from yours. My style of communication may be similar or vastly different. My perceptions of your style of communication may be spot on or way off.
And that’s not the end of it! There are so many places where communication can fall apart, it’s a miracle we ever get our points across at all!
Now that I’ve spent years studying communication and learning about it, sometimes I figure I’ve got it all down. It’s usually about that time when I make some huge mistake and hurt Pace’s feelings or trample on one of her landmines and we start miscommunicating. It’s fun to be an expert, because now we can usually recognize what’s happening and start repairing before much damage is done.
I hope to teach everyone what we’ve learned, so we can fill the world with communication experts!