WCME 063: IEA 2016 part 3: 4 Perspectives on the 3 Instincts: Russ Hudson, Mario Sikora, Beatrice Chestnut, and Tom Condon
Here are my takeaways from the panel on the three instincts, with panelists Russ Hudson, Mario Sikora, Beatrice Chestnut, and Tom Condon.
- Russ: The instincts are energies in the body. Behaviors are symptoms. You want balance. Dominant instinct is your jet fuel for how you lose connection with your essence.
- Mario: Clusters of evolutionary behaviors. Preserving, navigating, transmitting. Instinctual bias. Preserving resources. Preserving offspring. Navigating instead of social because social incorrectly implies extroversion. Transmitting, broadcasting followed by narrowcasting. Wanting to leave an impression.
- Tom: Social has a group in their head.
- Mario: 9 strategies for satisfying 3 instinctual needs.
- Bea: Naranjo. 27 subtypes
- Tom: NLP, speaking their language. People would cycle through the subtype reactions, in life and on the same day.
- Russ: Sexual is the evolutionary drive. Social is awareness and care of other. The instincts will show you how you leak your life force. It’s a tool for self observation, not a new false identity. Learning your type and subtype is the booby prize. I don’t like “one on one” because all three instincts have one-on-one relationships but they all have a different flavor. I call it sexual or attraction. A social group can be of size two. There are sub instincts like self care and domesticity, and self preservation people are generally not good at both.
- Tom: What’s the motivation? In a small town you might be social, because you might need to rely on those people for self preservation. A car crashes into your living room and you make it into furniture. The Enneagram shows you where to fish.
- Bea: I say repressed instead of blind spot, it’s actively pushed down and will sometimes pop up and embarrass me.
- Russ: Turn these habits into alarm clocks. We must cultivate presence or else there’s no one in the drivers seat to change anything. The repressed instinct is the one were most proud of. “I did the dishes, yay!” I (Pace) wonder if the law of three could apply. Dominant is yes, repressed is no, maybe the middle could reconcile?
- Tom: Being conscious is overrated.
- Mario: I don’t think one has to be repressed. Maybe I just don’t care about preserving. Transmitters don’t navigate. Preservers don’t transmit. Navigators don’t preserve.
- Bea: Having a better relationship starts with having a better relationship with yourself.
- Tom: It’s your ego’s job to defeat the Enneagram. The Enneagram is as deep as you dare.
- Russ: “We talk about this stuff.”
- Bea: “No one talks to me about this stuff.”
- Russ: In the end, we’re not learning from our models. We’re learning from our humanity. Learning the Enneagram is to die to who I am moment by moment.
- Tom: To find your type, narrow it down and then pick the one you want to be the least.
- Mario: The more you learn about the Enneagram, the slower you are to type yourself and others.
Previous episode in this series:
- WCME 060: IEA 2016 part 1: Bringing a scientific mindset to the Enneagram
- WCME 062: IEA 2016 part 2: Using Non-Violent Communication (NVC) to have conversations that transform
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