A tour of my email inbox three years ago
43 new emails since yesterday. Sigh.
- Someone invited me to do something I don’t really want to do, but I don’t want to be rude…
- Yay! I’ve got a new Pathfinding client! That will be awesome. But… now I’ve got to handle all the scheduling. I hate logistics…
- Sigh, an unsubscribe notification. Why did he unsub from my mailing list? Am I writing too often? Not often enough? Are my subject lines not engaging enough? My open rate is pretty low… has it been going down? *checks statistics*
- A comment on my most recent blog post! Yay! Now I need to think of something nice to say in reply. The comment was basically a long-winded way of saying “great post”, so I don’t have a lot to work with, but I want to make people feel welcome and appreciated. I guess I’ll just say “Thanks!” Is that lame? Will she ever even notice that I replied? I don’t know if the comment notification system is working properly… *investigates WordPress settings*
- Oi. Some troublemaker is fighting with nice people on my Facebook page. Let me see if I can talk to her and make peace… oh. It looks like this isn’t going to be easy or pleasant.
- Archive. I’d like to unsubscribe but I like this blogger and I don’t want to hurt her feelings if she sees that I unsubscribed. So I’ll just archive it.
- I gave away a few scholarships to the World-Changing Writing Workshop, and now I’m getting tons of emails asking for scholarships, even though I’ve already given them all out. But their stories are really touching and I want to help them… what do I do?
- A blogger liked my guest post and now they want another one. That’s great! But where am I going to find the time to write it?
- Ooh, my hold on The Lies of Locke Lamora came in at the library. Awesome.
- Someone wrote a blog post about “fear of success” and how it can block your business from growing. Pish and tosh. I’m not afraid of success. Success would be awesome. It’s all this tedious bullshit that gets in the way of success – that’s what I’m tired of.
We interrupt this email inbox for a news flash.
Fear of tedious bullshit is fear of success.
“Fear of success” means fear of what success brings.
If you were more successful, what would happen?
Would you feel crushed by the additional responsibility?
Would you be more visible, and have more people asking you for things? Would you feel forced into either an awkward no or a halfhearted yes?
Would you become busier, and feel less spacious and more stressed?
Would you feel more pressure when you write if you knew you were writing to a larger audience?
Would you have many more opportunities to let people down, in bigger and more terrifying ways?
Would you make more money, and then feel guilty about what you do with that money?
When you think it through, “success” is a double-edged sword, isn’t it?
Take a moment to visualize what success would really look like for you. Not rainbows-and-unicorns visualization, but an honest imagining of what a typical day might be like if you were more successful.
Don’t visualize the awards ceremony, visualize the email inbox.
Notice how success magnifies everything – both the good and the bad.
Whatever annoys you now might incapacitate you if you were successful.
Whatever you fear now could terrify you if you were successful.
Whatever you find tedious now might bore you to tears if you were successful.
Whatever you find uncomfortable now might panic you if you were successful.
Whatever you dislike now, you might hate if you were successful.
You’ve got to make room for success before you can want it wholeheartedly.
If part of you believes that “success = more troubles”, then that part of you will drag its heels, being understandably reticent about seeking out more troubles.
If all this is happening subconsciously, it can be especially frustrating to your conscious mind, which can’t understand why all your best-laid plans get subtly self-sabotaged by that well-meaning part of you that’s so earnestly trying to save you from all those troubles.
Here’s what making room for success looks like.
- I wrote a “polite no” form letter and practiced saying no, so that people asking me for things no longer has the ability to incapacitate me.
- I bought a subscription to YouCanBookMe to automate a lot of my scheduling and logistics. Now getting a new Pathfinding client feels entirely great instead of mostly-great-and-slightly-horrible.
- I opted out of getting unsubscribe notifications. They only made me worry and were never helpful. I set a weekly reminder to look at my metrics and think about how to act on them, and that feels empowering instead of demoralizing.
- I let go of trying to say the right thing in blog comments and social media. I write quickly, I don’t edit, and I let it go when I’m done. I practice resilience, not perfection.
- If someone stirs up trouble on social media, I block them and move on. It takes about 10 seconds and I only feel a little bit bad about it, instead of engaging with them which takes hours and usually ends up with me feeling horrible.
- I unsubscribed from lists I don’t read. They probably won’t notice, and if they do, I’ll assume they’ll understand. Now my email inbox is less cluttered and feels less tedious.
- I started managing my time better, so that I make time for the most important things and I know how much time I have available so I can say yes or no to opportunities.
This was a long process that took a lot of work, both logistical and emotional. But it’s work worth doing.
I made room for success. My business grew. And now I need to make more room for more success so that my business can grow again.
It’s like climbing a ladder.
You grab one rung with your left hand – you make room.
You grab the next rung with your right hand – your business grows.
You grab the next rung with your left hand – you make more room.
You grab the next rung with your right hand – your business grows more.
Hand over hand. Left, right, left, right. You can’t grow more until you make more room.
What’s one thing you could do to make more room?
2009: I go to half-time at my day job. I set a financial goal for my baby business. 52 Weeks to Awesome is my first success. But it’s still not enough.
2010: The World-Changing Writing Workshop is a wild success! But it’s still not enough.
2011: The Pathfinding Program is born and begins to thrive. But it’s still not enough.
2012: I quit my day job. Now we need the business to succeed so we can pay the bills. We have a cushion of savings but it’s not enough.
2013: I move to Portland, the city of my dreams. Kyeli and I have our business breakup. Now I’m responsible for meeting 100% of that financial goal, not just 50%. I’m less than half of enough.
2014: I’ve got more Pathfinding clients than I’ve ever had before, and they’re all doing so well! I smile! I celebrate. And then I get back to work, because it’s still not enough.
Last week: I take a break during my work day to go for a walk around the neighborhood. I’m walking down the street with my lovely wife, admiring the gorgeous Portland flowers, and it hits me –
This is enough.
So what if I never hit that green line? So what if I never achieve that financial goal? So what if I’m never “successful”?
I’m living in the city of my dreams with the woman of my dreams. I’m doing what I love for a living, helping people, and making a difference. And all that gets rounded down to “still not enough”?
I stop in my tracks. I turn around on the sidewalk and look backwards, like I’m looking backwards on the path of my life. I’ve lived in this amazing city for over a year. I’ve been fully self-employed for a year and a half. I’ve been married to Kyeli for almost 9 years.
I’ve been so focused on the struggles ahead that I never took a moment to appreciate how far I’ve come – or to be grateful for where I am now.
Making a habit of gratitude
That day, Kyeli and I started a new tradition. At the end of each day, we tell each other what we’re grateful for. And I take special effort to express gratitude for the things I might otherwise take for granted.
I say from my heart, “I’m grateful to be living in Portland. I’m grateful for our relationship. I’m grateful to be free to do what I love for a living. I’m grateful that I have the opportunity to help people and make a difference.”
It’s only been one week, and it’s already changed my life.
Stop in your tracks.
Look backwards on your own path. How far have you come? Take a moment to turn away from the obstacles ahead of you to appreciate your journey and where you are now.
What are you grateful for?
Donald Trump and a monk walk into a bar…
I don’t know a lot about the actual Donald Trump, but the Donald Trump in my mind is the archetype of the ruthless businessman. He’s greedy, and will step on as many people as it takes to get to the top. He’s deceitful, wasteful, and doesn’t care at all about people or the planet – only profit. He’s aggressive and male. He’s all power and no love.
On the other hand, the archetype of love and service is a monk. Monks are all about love and spirituality and service, but monks hate money. They don’t own any material possessions and they go out and beg to get their basic needs met. Lots of love… but no power. Because power corrupts, right?
The Ancient Legend of the Were-Trump
I’m afraid that if I let myself love money or power, then I’ll turn into a were-Trump. By the light of the full wallet, I’ll howl “Awoooooooo!” I’ll tear my clothes off, revealing an Armani suit underneath, and run around madly laying off workers, buying Ferraris, and building hotels.
What place is there for someone like me? Where’s my archetype?
The good news and the bad news
The bad news is that there’s no place for us yet. The stereotype of people who have money or power is that they are greedy and ruthless – and this stereotype exists for a reason. There has been a lot of harm done to the world by the rich and powerful.
The good news is that the world is changing. And we have the opportunity – the responsibility – to use our power to help shift the world toward love, instead of giving it away because we’re afraid it will corrupt us.
Imagine that you become rich and powerful.
You meet all your basic needs. You give yourself some delicious comforts – enough to really feel spacious. What do you do then? Do you suddenly bust out of your clothes and reveal the Armani suit underneath? Do you cackle with greed and start laying off workers, buying Ferraris, and building hotels?
Or would you – and I’m going to go out on a limb here – continue to be the same good-hearted person you’ve always been?
The world is changing.
I first began to believe in this change when I found others who embody both power and love, people like Pam and Charlie and Mark. They exist! Businesspeople who aren’t ruthless! (In fact, they’ve got a hefty helping of ruth.)
I’m doing my part, too. I’m doing my best to be the change I want to see in the world. I am powerful, and I use my power in service of love.
Let’s create a new archetype, together.
What does it look like to you?
Ishita has got a sweet soul,
Her virtues too great to extol.
Her schtick is that she
Can help you to be
Confident and in control.
Ishita Gupta is a confidence coach. She’ll share her own journey toward self-confidence and what she’s learned along the way.
- Ishita’s story of how she lost and regained her self-confidence
- Seth Godin’s non-MBA program
- “Seth’s belief in me amplified my own belief in myself.”
- being surrounded by people who don’t believe in you
- addiction to underconfidence
- “what you do can make it true” (an alternative to “fake it ’till you make it”)
- impostor syndrome
- How to tell the difference between underconfidence and actually being underqualified?
- For someone who’s feeling unconfident or not good enough, what’s the first step?
You can find Ishita at IshitaGupta.com. Her Confidence Course opens in July!
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Note: Jen is a real person. Gretchen is not.
Pace and Kyeli, driving home after an evening with Gretchen
“Did you have a good time?” asked Pace.
Kyeli replied, “I did, for the most part. But there was one thing I wanted to ask you about: What do you think Gretchen meant by that vague comment about money?”
Pace said, “I have no idea. Maybe she was unhappy about sharing the cost of food? Maybe it was something totally unrelated? Whatever it was, it seemed to be bothering her a lot. I noticed you tried to draw her out to see if you could help, but she really didn’t want to talk about it.”
Kyeli said, “Yeah, I know. I don’t like to complain, but I can’t help it; Gretchen’s passive-aggressive comments were really getting on my nerves tonight! Like, if she’s cold, why can’t she just say, ‘Do you mind if I close the window?’ instead of ‘It sure is chilly in here…’ and then get pissed when nobody picks up the hint! Oh, turn right at the next light.”
Pace nodded and said, “Yeah, I find myself constantly trying to read her mind and deduce if she needs anything, because I don’t trust her to speak up. I get tense on her behalf unless I catch myself and remind myself to treat her like a big girl.”
Kyeli’s phone yipped like a baby fox. “Huh. It’s a text from Gretchen. She says that she really enjoyed hanging out with me tonight.”
Pace raised an eyebrow and said, “That’s nice… but kinda weird that she texted you and not me. What do you make of that?”
…and they talked about Gretchen all the way home.
Pace and Kyeli, driving home after an evening with Jen
“Did you have a good time?” asked Pace.
Kyeli replied, “Yes. I love Jen. She’s so great.”
Pace nodded. “Agreed,” she said.
Kyeli cranked up the chiptune dubstep, and they rocked out all the way home.
Are your friends Jens or Gretchens?
Notice how much time you spend processing or talking about your friends after you spend time with them. How does it make you feel? If you feel bad, what could you do to feel less bad, or to feel bad less often?
When you find a friend whom you feel great around and you have nothing to process afterward, that is a true treasure. Nourish the crap out of that friendship!
Rose is one of my Pathfinding clients. I’m sharing this conversation with her permission, under an alias and paraphrased, with the hope that you need to hear this, too.
Rose: “I feel lost. I feel adrift. I pray and I pray and I listen and I listen, and I follow my heart, and then everything turns to shit. I must be doing something wrong. I must not be listening well enough. What am I doing wrong?”
Pace: “It sounds like you’re feeling really frustrated and afraid. That’s really hard.”
Rose: “Yes. It’s really hard. I’m frustrated that I haven’t figured this out yet, and I’m afraid I’m going to feel like this forever.”
Pace: “I hear you. That’s really scary. So do you feel that you ought to have figured this out by now?”
Rose: “Yes! I’ve been on this spiritual path for fifteen years, I’ve been practicing listening to my heart and following my heart for the past five years, and I’m absolute rubbish at it! Absolute rubbish. I can’t follow my heart out of a paper bag. What do I have to show for all this time and effort on my path? I feel like I need Spirituality 101 for Total Newbies Who Can’t Follow Their Heart Out of a Paper Bag. Like I need to be sent back a grade, because I obviously haven’t learned anything.”
Pace: “Can you say more about where you feel like you’re supposed to be on your spiritual path?”
Rose: “Yeah, I started out doing all these practices. Grounding and centering, lighting candles, Remembrance, prayer, that sort of thing. I practiced that for a long time, and then I learned that what’s really important is my heart. So now I hold Spirit in my heart in all things, so I don’t need all the same trappings I used to. I just see the world through Spirit-tinted glasses.”
Pace: “So it’s like you graduated from needing all those things, and now you’re more advanced on your spiritual path?”
Rose: “Yeah, pretty much. But I must have missed something because now I’m feeling disconnected, lost, and angry at Spirit.”
Pace: “Right. Let’s explore and see if we can find what you missed. But first, may I ask you about your friend Jenn? I swear it’s related.”
Rose: “What? Sure, I guess.”
Pace: “How long have you and Jenn been friends?”
Rose: “Over ten years… twelve, I think.”
Pace: “When you were getting to know each other, when you were starting to become friends, what sorts of things did you do?”
Rose: “We talked on the phone a lot. We met up and did things together sometimes, too.”
Pace: “How long did it take for your friendship to feel solid and secure?”
Rose: “I guess about three years. After that, I knew she’d be there for me whenever I needed her.”
Pace: “And after three years, did you stop talking to her? Did you stop spending time together?”
Rose: “No! Of course not!”
Pace: “So you didn’t ‘graduate’ to a new level of friendship, where you could just hold Jenn in your heart and leave all the ‘trappings’ of friendship behind?”
Rose: “Oh. I see. I’ve left Spirit behind. I thought I didn’t need those practices anymore. I thought I was so awesome that I didn’t need all that stuff anymore. But I guess I still do, huh?”
Pace: “What do you think?”
Rose: “Yeah. I really do. It’s not like graduating, it’s like building a house. You build the ground floor, then you build the second floor, but you don’t demolish the ground floor or it’ll all fall down. And I think that’s what happened to me.”
Pace: “I think you may be right, Rose. But the good news is all those things you learned haven’t been demolished, they’re just rusty. They’ll come back easily and naturally if you return to the basics.”
Rose: “Return to the basics. Yeah, I guess that’s what I need to do. It sure is humbling.”
Yes, Rose, it sure is. I remember when I thought I had ‘graduated’ to a new level of business, that I had mastered the basics. Then one of my launches flopped, and I had to return to the basics. To return to asking my audience what they’re struggling with instead of assuming that I already know because I’m so awesome at business.
It sure is humbling.
I remember when Michele Lisenbury Christensen, who had been practicing yoga for over a decade, went to visit her family during Thanksgiving. She took a week-long break from her daily yoga practice, and she started snapping at her family members with anger. She felt antsy and on edge, and the sense of inner peace that she had come to take for granted was taken away from her.
It sure is humbling.
These lessons aren’t the kind you can graduate from. These lessons aren’t a line, they’re a spiral.
You never get to graduate from daily practice. You never get to graduate from showing up wholeheartedly. You never get to graduate from humility.
But you do get to make progress.
Rose returned to the basics, and now has a fierce, courageous connection to Spirit that’s stronger than ever.
I returned to the basics, and now have a truer, more authentic connection to my business and my people.
Michele returned to the basics, and dove back into her yoga practice like a fish into water, with none of the resistance she felt when she first began.
Is it time for you to return to the basics?
Joyless: Without joy.
Joylessness: The state of being without joy. In other words, sorrow.
Sorrowless: Without sorrow.
Sorrowlessness: The state of being without sorrow. In other words, joy.
But if we can say sorrow as joylessness,
then we can say sorrowless as joylessnessless,
and sorrowlessness as joylessnesslessness.
But sorrowlessness means joy, so joylessnesslessness means joy too.
In fact, you can tack the suffix “-lessnesslessness” onto just about any word that takes “-less”, and it means absolutely nothing.
This is why -lessnesslessness is my favorite suffix.
- fearlessnesslessness = fear
- hopelessnesslessness = hope
- happinesslessnesslessness = happiness
-nesslessnessless works similarly for words that take “-ness”, like so:
- happinesslessnessless = happy
- courageousnesslessnessless = courageous
- greatnesslessnessless = great
Extra credit: double it up! Triple it up! Add as many “-lessnesslessness”‘s as you want – just be careful to not stop in the middle of one, or you’ll reverse the meaning! Joylessnesslessnesslessnesslessness is wonderful, but you wouldn’t want to feel joylessnesslessnesslessnesslessnesslessness, would you?
There once was a hippie named Tad.
His sliminess made him feel sad.
So he put that behind
And then he designed
A marketing plan that feels rad.
- Tad’s journey from slime to rad
- Why does slimy marketing exist?
- Where do you draw the line between what feels good and what feels slimy? (with examples)
- The 4 steps Tad helps hippies with:
- Marketing feels gross. Antidote: It’s not about selling. It’s about finding the truth of “is this a fit?”
- Where do I fit in the marketplace?
- What do I want to be known for?
- Making it easier to get clients/customers (going from cold to warm to hot marketing)
- Changing the world. “What if everyone used this marketing tactic?”
- Tad closes with some sleight of hand and a Gaelic blessing
You can find Tad Hargrave at MarketingForHippies.com.
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It’s 2011, and I’m burning out.
You’ve got to be a good girl. If you do well, you’ll be worthy of respect, of money… of love. If you’re impressive enough, you’ll earn your place. You’ll prove that you’re a good person.
I try so hard. I try so hard to be enough, to do whatever I can to be a good person. And somehow, I still feel empty inside. Drained. Depleted. Exhausted from carrying this burden for so many years.
What would happen if I just… let go?
You can’t do that. That’s selfish. You are self-centered and immature. You have a responsibility to others and a responsibility to the world. You’re privileged, and it’s irresponsible to squander what you’ve been given. So get over yourself and get back to work.
I can’t. I just can’t anymore. I can’t take the pressure. I can’t take the responsibility. I just can’t. I’m closing my computer. I’m ignoring all my emails. I’m turning off my phone. I’m calling in sick to my day job. I’m curling into a ball. All I’m doing is resting, taking care of myself, and playing video games. ALL DAY.
And all day the next day, too.
And all day the next next day, too.
Now it’s the fourth day. I had forgotten what it felt like to feel rested and replenished. And I’m noticing something strange in my heart. I want to help people. I want to get up off the couch, turn on my computer, reach out, and see how I can be of service. I want to write down the message in my heart, put it in a blog-bottle, and send it out into the inter-ocean to touch others’ hearts.
I rested “selfishly.”
And when I felt fully rested, I wanted to give. I wanted to help. I wanted to work.
For once in my life, I didn’t have to force myself.
Love works best inside-out.
When you try to earn love through your actions, it leaves you feeling hollow, depleted, empty.
When you love yourself by taking good care of yourself, once your heart is full, the love will overflow. You can give from a place of fullness without depleting yourself.
You can give wholeheartedly, because your own needs are met. And that’s when the magic happens.
The kindest thing you can do for others is to be kind to yourself.
Acting “selflessly” out of guilt or obligation is an empty act if your heart isn’t in it. And if your heart isn’t full, your heart can’t be fully in it. The kindest thing you can do for others is to be kind to yourself.
You’ve been told an insidious lie: you’ve been told that you are flawed. You’ve been told that you are not enough as you are, and that you must earn worthiness. You’ve been told that you are tainted with original sin and must be saved. You’ve been told that you must force yourself to be a good person.
I believed that I was inherently lazy and selfish, and that I had to force myself to be useful. The truth that I found inside myself was that what I had labeled “lazy and selfish” was really burned out and depleted. Once my heart was rested and replenished, I discovered my true nature.
I am enough, just as I am right now. I am worthy of love – because of who I am, not because of anything I do or don’t do. I am loved. I am enough.
These words were tattooed on my heart all along. I was just too exhausted and bleary-eyed to read them.
What words are tattooed on your heart? Are you willing to look inside to read them?
Don’t make my mistake – don’t wait until you collapse from the pressure. Give yourself the time and space you need to free yourself from everything. Give yourself the care you need to feel rested and replenished.
Oh, and when I opened my computer again on the fourth day? I had disappointed some people. I had let some people down. I took responsibility for it, I did my best to make amends, and it turned out okay. The voice that said, “You can never rest because if you ever let anyone down, everything will fall apart” turned out to be yet another lie.
My question to you
What would happen if you stopped trying to be good? What’s your true nature, underneath all the masks and the roles and the shoulds and the obligations? Who are you if you let go of striving?
Are you courageous enough to unearth your true nature?
Are you brave enough to rest?
The 8 Money Metaphors that shape your life and your business: Werewolf, Bees, Nuts, Rain, Wood, Fish, Energy, Friend
Does money slip out of your fingers as soon as you get it? Do you get into financial trouble and not really understand how you got there? Or have you negotiated an uneasy truce with money, a truce that works pretty well but might be blocking you from wild financial success?
Maybe it’s because of your money metaphor.
Here are 8 metaphors, 8 common ways of relating to money, that shape your life and your business. I’ll describe each of the 8 metaphors and, after each one, I’ll ask you some follow-up questions to help you explore your relationship with money more deeply.
Money is a werewolf.
I can have money, but only if I’m constantly on guard against its evil influence. I need to lock money in the basement so it can’t get at me. If money bites me, it will corrupt me and turn me into an unethical, untrustworthy, greedy person.
Tell me a story. Tell me a story about you having lots of money and it corrupting you. What would you do with the money? How would it change your essential nature? Does this story ring true?
Money is bees.
I can keep money, and I can get honey from money, but if I’m not a skilled, diligent, cautious beekeeper, money will sting me and I’ll get into big trouble and it will hurt a lot.
Is money really that dangerous? Does it require that much caution? What would happen if you tried acting like a skilled and confident moneykeeper instead of an afraid and cautious moneykeeper? Bees respect confidence – might money be the same way?
Money is nuts.
As long as I have enough money squirreled away in my tree trunk, I’ll be able to survive the winter. Spring, summer, and fall, I spend all my time gathering money to prepare for the winter.
How do you feel in spring, summer, and fall? Are you content with your life being an endless struggle to survive a future drought that may never come?
Money is rain.
Money falls from the sky like a gift from the gods, granted or withheld based on cosmic whims beyond my mortal comprehension. When it rains, I might as well drink my fill and spend as much money as I want, because who knows when the next rainfall will be? I can do a rain dance and pray, but ultimately, it’s out of my hands.
Is it really true that there’s nothing you can do about it? How does it benefit you to believe that it’s out of your hands? What amazing, good things might happen if you built a rain barrel or a water mill?
Money is wood.
If I need money, I can just chop down a tree with my credit card, any time I want. There are so many trees in this forest, I’ll never run out of money!
What’s the hidden cost of chopping down a tree / charging something to your credit card? Who’s going to replant that tree you chopped down? Who’s going to repay your debt? Is your current happiness worth the price you’ll pay in the future?
Money is fish.
I can catch money any time I’m hungry. Money is abundant. Money comes easily to me. Through my power of intention, I effortlessly attract all the money I desire and need. There is enough money in the ocean for every living being.
Intention is an amazingly powerful force on the energetic plane. Have you found it to hold true on the physical plane? What helps the fish population more: to visualize their abundance, or to take action against overfishing? What helps your relationship with money more: to visualize its abundance, or to take action to manage it well?
Money is energy.
Money is energy. I can direct the flow of money to make things happen. Money’s essence is neutral, so it takes on the flavor of how it’s used. If I use money for good, it can make good things happen. If I use money for evil or greed, it can make bad things happen. If I use money stupidly, it can make stupid things happen, and if I use money smartly, it can make smart things happen.
Look inside your heart. Is it a good heart? Look inside your brain. Is it a smart brain? If you’re not likely to be overcome by evil or stupidity any time soon, then is money really neutral – to you? How might your relationship with money change if you thought of it as positive instead of neutral?
Money is a friend.
Money is a friend. If I treat money with welcoming kindness, money will be there for me when I need it. If I never call or write or hang out with money except when I need something, money will eventually stop returning my calls.
Do you call? Do you write? Do you hang out with your friend when you don’t need something?
What’s your money relationship? Is it one of these eight, or is yours one I haven’t listed?