Chapter 25: The lollipop
The lollipop is a metaphor we use to explain the nature of expectations, attachment, and disappointment.1 We’ll illustrate it by comparing and contrasting three stories.
Claire’s Example: A Baseline
Claire has a lollipop. It’s about two hundred licks of tasty lollipop. So she’s standing around, licking on this lollipop, and eventually it’s gone. She’s eaten the whole lollipop, so now all she has left is a stick. She feels pretty happy; she enjoys lollipops, and she’s finished a good one. She feels content.
…and here’s the rest: