Community Update #11: Telepathic narcissists, retreat!

Hello again! Here’s a taste of what’s been going on lately with our community and around the internets.

How to be telepathic

This is an interesting article about how to avoid the usual error. The upshot is to imagine what the other person would think at some point far away in the future, rather than imagining what they would think right now. When it comes to guessing what others are thinking, our future-guessing is far more accurate (even for now!) than our now-guessing.

Taylor Muse

Our friend Taylor Muse shares his thoughts about religion, music, Daniel Quinn, and the control paradigm. It’s a moving post, and there’s some interesting discussion in the comments. You can read it here.

Idea Catalyst Kit

Our friend Megan at IdeaSchema (you may remember her as the talent behind the book design for The Usual Error, among many other things) has launched a new product called the Idea Catalyst Kit. It’s for entrepreneurs trying to figure out how to come up with a brilliant idea for a successful business, or entrepreneurs who already have brilliant ideas and don’t know what to do with them.

We don’t make any money if you click on these links; our only goal in sharing this with you is to help you get those ideas out of your head and into the world, any way you can. We’ve peeked inside the box, and it’s not just hype — there’s impressively good stuff in there! Megan is high quality. Click and see for yourself!

The Narcissist: A User’s Guide

Our friends Betsy and Lori have written a new e-book: The Narcissist – A User’s Guide. It teaches you how to recognize and deal with narcissists in your life.

What kind of people are we talking about here?

  • Friends who sap you of energy.
  • Co-workers who make your life miserable.
  • Family members who criticize you, incessantly argue with you, and drive you crazy.
  • People who demand lots of emotional maintenance but rarely reciprocate.

What they call narcissists, we might label "emotional manipulators", "codependent abusers", or "emotional vampires".

This is very important stuff here. If anyone in your life fits this description, then please give this e-book a read. Think of it as a troubleshooting appendix to The Usual Error.

It’s only 30 pages, but it’s packed with practical wisdom. It’s a great read and it’s also written in a way that’s easy to skim. And best of all, it’s free!

Here’s the link! Narcissist: A User’s Guide

Austin Makes a Book

Austin, TX residents: Check this out, it’s a crowdsourced book! 100 people, 100 pages. Kyeli and I just submitted our page (an essay about the monkeysphere), and now there are only 25 24 pages left. Hmm, since they let Kyeli and me share a page, I guess that makes it 101 people, 100 pages. Off-by-one error. (:

If you live in or around Austin and would like to submit a story, essay, photo, art, or whatever, check out Austin Makes a Book.

Pace and Kyeli are Retreating

How will Pace and Kyeli be spending our Valentine’s Day weekend? At Jen Louden’s Virtual Retreat, that’s how!

Oh my gosh, this is going to be so good. Jen is such a sweetheart, and we’re doing a bunch of lovely things with Patti Digh, Hiro Boga, Fabeku, and oodles of other shiny people. (:

We’re looking forward to it ridiculous lots. It’ll be like a huge emotional and spiritual sigh. The kind where you breath in deeply, let it out slowly, and you feel like your shoulders relax and sink all the way into the soft bouncy peat bog grass. Or maybe that’s just us. (;

The price goes up by $50 tonight at midnight, so if you feel inspired to join us at the Virtual Retreat, you might want to register soon.

Click here (affiliate link, direct link) to read more, and to see the whole list of interesting and fabulous people!

Feel clear and confident about your direction in life!


Do you wish you could follow your heart, but it seems impossible? I can help you find the clarity and courage you need.

In other words, I can help you find your path.