show me someone who never stops caring for others, and i’ll show you someone who’s trying to defeat her belief in her own unlovability by milking others for gratitude.

show me someone who never stops caring for others, and i’ll show you someone who doesn’t feel safe when she can’t maintain the illusion that she controls external events.

show me someone who never stops caring for others, and i’ll show you someone who likes others to be weak and needy so she can feel strong.

show me someone who never stops caring for others, and i’ll show you someone who is so exhausted that she’s most likely to break just when she’s needed most.

show me someone who thinks of her own well-being first, and i’ll show you someone who has the capacity for focused, centered, whole-hearted attention.

show me someone who thinks of her own well-being first, and i’ll show you someone who can be flexible and spontaneous in the face of the unexpected.

show me someone who thinks of her own well-being first, and i’ll show you someone who can delight in others’ independence and respect them enough to let them learn from their mistakes.

show me someone who thinks of her own well-being first, and i’ll show you someone with a bright spirit and a healthy body.

show me someone who thinks of her own well-being first, and i’ll show you someone who’s genuinely capable of thinking of someone other than herself.

This was written by a friend who wished to be quoted anonymously.

When I read it, it reminds me of the importance of holding healthy boundaries.

What comes up for you when you read it?