We got creeped by a creeper, and what it taught us about politeness, rape culture, and gender roles

Kyeli and I were accosted by a creepy stalker recently, and so we want to talk about politeness, being a “nice girl,” placating, salespeople, creepers, and other folks who violate the social contract.

“Buy this vacuum from me ’cause it’s cheaper,”
Says the salesperson. Now go deeper:
We respond so politely
‘Cause rude is unsightly,
But then you’re polite to a creeper!

  • the story of the creeper
  • politeness as placating
  • rape culture and gender roles

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