The cure for still-not-enough disease

still not enough

2009: I go to half-time at my day job. I set a financial goal for my baby business. 52 Weeks to Awesome is my first success. But it’s still not enough.

2010: The World-Changing Writing Workshop is a wild success! But it’s still not enough.

2011: The Pathfinding Program is born and begins to thrive. But it’s still not enough.

2012: I quit my day job. Now we need the business to succeed so we can pay the bills. We have a cushion of savings but it’s not enough.

2013: I move to Portland, the city of my dreams. Kyeli and I have our business breakup. Now I’m responsible for meeting 100% of that financial goal, not just 50%. I’m less than half of enough.

2014: I’ve got more Pathfinding clients than I’ve ever had before, and they’re all doing so well! I smile! I celebrate. And then I get back to work, because it’s still not enough.

Last week: I take a break during my work day to go for a walk around the neighborhood. I’m walking down the street with my lovely wife, admiring the gorgeous Portland flowers, and it hits me –

This is enough.

So what if I never hit that green line? So what if I never achieve that financial goal? So what if I’m never “successful”?

I’m living in the city of my dreams with the woman of my dreams. I’m doing what I love for a living, helping people, and making a difference. And all that gets rounded down to “still not enough”?

I stop in my tracks. I turn around on the sidewalk and look backwards, like I’m looking backwards on the path of my life. I’ve lived in this amazing city for over a year. I’ve been fully self-employed for a year and a half. I’ve been married to Kyeli for almost 9 years.

I’ve been so focused on the struggles ahead that I never took a moment to appreciate how far I’ve come – or to be grateful for where I am now.

Making a habit of gratitude

That day, Kyeli and I started a new tradition. At the end of each day, we tell each other what we’re grateful for. And I take special effort to express gratitude for the things I might otherwise take for granted.

I say from my heart, “I’m grateful to be living in Portland. I’m grateful for our relationship. I’m grateful to be free to do what I love for a living. I’m grateful that I have the opportunity to help people and make a difference.”

It’s only been one week, and it’s already changed my life.

Stop in your tracks.

Look backwards on your own path. How far have you come? Take a moment to turn away from the obstacles ahead of you to appreciate your journey and where you are now.

What are you grateful for?

Feel clear and confident about your direction in life!


Do you wish you could follow your heart, but it seems impossible? I can help you find the clarity and courage you need.

In other words, I can help you find your path.