The 3 things that enabled us to follow our dreams
Last week, we announced that we’re selling all our stuff, quitting my day job, moving into an RV full-time and touring the continent.
Many of you have asked why, and what led us to make such a huge change in our lives. It all boils down to 3 things. Without any one of these 3 things, our dreams would not be coming true.
#1: Heart of Money
Business is going well, but the Connection Revolution isn’t paying all our bills yet. We’re taking a leap of faith that we’ll be able to grow our business to that point before we run out of savings.
The only thing that is keeping me from completely freaking out is the Heart of Money class I took in 2009. That’s how I overcame my fear of running out of money.
And by “overcame it”, I mean “learned what I need to know to overcome it, then forgot it and remembered it about eighty billion times over and over.”
To do my best work, I need to be able to focus on doing my best work instead of constantly panicking about how we’re going to make ends meet. Remembering what I learned in Heart of Money makes that possible.
#2: I’m Fine, Thanks
In July, we attended the world premiere of “I’m Fine, Thanks”, a documentary about complacency by Adam Baker and Grant Peelle. Kyeli and I were blown away. I’m even in the movie – I knew exactly what I was going to say – and my own words made myself cry.
After seeing “I’m Fine, Thanks,” I couldn’t wait any longer. Our previous plan to save up a little more money and then move to Portland felt like complacency. It felt like we were putting our dreams on hold.
We had many tear-filled conversations with many good friends, and everything led us back to the same place – don’t wait. Don’t settle. I think that I’m “fine, thanks” but really I’m dying inside.
In a coffee shop in Portland, Kyeli and I poured our hearts out to each other. Our fears, our hopes, and our dreams. And then Kyeli said,
“Why don’t we just sell all our stuff, quit your job, live in an RV, and tour the continent?”
I felt torn. I felt an irresistible pull toward adventure, freedom, and following my dreams… but I still had the Voice of Reason telling me that I could work for just a few more months, I could stick with the plan, it’s a perfectly good plan, it’s not that bad, it’s irresponsible to just up and leave, this whole idea is crazy…
#3: The Bialy Pimps
…and that’s when I said, “Why not? Why not? Why not install a Face-Kicking Machine?”
Major spoilers follow for The Bialy Pimps, Johnny B. Truant’s novel about bagels, conformity, and – apparently – making major life-changing decisions.
In the book, there comes a point where the main characters learn that there is no hope for the bagel deli. It will be closed down no matter what they do. At first, they despair. But then – in a flash of insight that gives me chills every time – they realize, “…we could do anything.”
And they do. Including installing a Face-Kicking Machine, where customers voluntarily step up to have their faces kicked.
And all these crazy things they do after they had given up – those things turn out to be exactly the right things to have done.
I was holding onto my bagel deli. I wanted things to stay the same. I wanted to feel safe.
But what if I could do anything?
Some obstacles are real. If you jump off an actual cliff, you will actually die.
But most obstacles in the modern world are illusions. If I run out of money, I won’t die. Kyeli won’t die. Our son won’t die. We are clever and resourceful and talented and we have a lot of people who love us and support us. We have about eighty billion options between “run out of money” and “die”.
It’s not a cliff. It’s a bagel deli.
This feeling of complete freedom gave me the perspective I needed to say yes.
Yes, let’s sell all our stuff.
Yes, let me quit my day job.
Yes, let’s move into an RV and live in it.
Yes, let’s tour the continent.
Yes, yes, yes, a thousand times yes.
How can you tell the difference between a cliff and a bagel deli?
I asked my heart.
And my heart said yes, yes, yes, a thousand times yes.
Three years ago, we were not ready. Making this decision earlier would have been a mistake.
But now, we’re ready. We have everything we need – emotionally, spiritually, and financially – to make our dreams come true.
And you know what?
I’m putting together a Pathfinding Class to help you figure out what your dreams are and how you can make them come true.
No fluff, no bullshit – just the best of what really works.
I’m taking everything I’ve learned about following my dreams from both my own experience and from all my Pathfinding coaching clients and condensing it into a 3-week class, each week teaching one of the three most important things I’ve learned – the things that come up over and over again.
Click here if you’d like to know more about the class.
And if you’re saying, “No, I’m fine, thanks” to yourself right now, take a moment to double-check. I thought I was “fine, thanks,” and now I know what it feels like to live a life of “yes, yes, yes, a thousand times yes.”
Is it possible to make such a big shift in just 3 weeks?
Feel clear and confident about your direction in life!
Do you wish you could follow your heart, but it seems impossible? I can help you find the clarity and courage you need.
In other words, I can help you find your path.