In keeping with my annual tradition (2022, 2021, 2020, 2019, 2018 2017, 2016, 2015, 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011, 2010, 2009, 2008), this New Year’s Eve I’m reflecting on everything that’s happened this year.

My favorite game of the year was Tunic. The Golden Path is the best puzzle in any game I’ve ever played, and I loved figuring out the language. I also loved Tears of the Kingdom, Chants of Sennaar, Stray, Fallow, Slay the Princess, Patch Quest, and Dave the Diver. My favorite visual media was Bodies, Kaleidoscope, and Fall of the House of Usher.

In January, Kye moved out for good.

In February, Citadel moved in. I attended Mountains and Rivers Temple. I had a money scare; I was a hot mess and it was okay. I unlocked my little. I built a space station for cats, got cuddles, and talked about how much I love cats for an hour.

In March, I attended Helena’s Wheel of Consent workshop in Vancouver. I realized how few things in my life I was actually wanting, and how much I was tolerating. I made a list of all 32 things in my life that I was tolerating, and started chipping away.

concentric circles showing what I'm wanting, willing, and tolerating

In April, I went to the Aphrodite Priestess Retreat and got permabanned.

In May, I had lunch with Citadel’s mom. The first Wanton Wands of Wonder occurred and it was phenomenally awesome.

In June, Rose turned 30 and gave us a concert for her birthday party! She became a portal of music and emotion; it was one of the best shows I’ve ever experienced. G & V hung out in the Love Shack.

In July, I went on a very gay vacay, at which I had a breakdown and also one of the best experiences of my filthy worthy perfect life. The second Wanton Wands of Wonder occurred and it was just terrific.

In September, the third Wanton Wands of Wonder occurred and it was tremendous. I wrote the rough draft of Catfish Waterslide.

In October, Chelsea came to visit. I had a lovely birthday orgy and I got to flip the whiteboard with a dramatic flourish. I saw my first opera, Carmen, with Rose and Mischa. I broke up with everyone, and decided that before I started dating anyone new, I first needed to become someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

In November, I attended my first Tacoma Polyamory Social: 53 RSVPs, all strangers, at an unfamiliar location. Take that, social anxiety! And it paid off because I met a bunch of people and made at least one new friend. I finally became someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I stopped attending Wanton Wands of Wonder, and I started dating Stephanie.

In December, I graduated therapy! I escaped 3 escape rooms in one day and a mirror opened reeeeeaaaaaallllllyyyyyy slowly. I joined a new D&D campaign: Alchemist Hunters and/or Huntees. I had Yule morning donuts with Julie. I made an infographic and a map of my life. I had a lovely movie night with Kerri. Stephanie came to visit for a three-day Sapphic Smoochapalooza, and we ate 90% of Citadel’s brownies.

an infographic timeline of my life

My word of the year for 2023 was harmonize, and my goal was to establish healthy, interdependent, equitable partnerships. I made a lot of progress toward this goal, but it wasn’t until the last few months, with the triple breakup and the self-marriage, that I really made room in my life for healthy, interdependent, equitable partnerships.

2023 turned out to be a year of figuring out what I want and need, then inexorably saying no to everything else.

My goal for 2024 is to mindfully and intentionally add awesome people and things to my life, while continuing to say no to everything else.

My word of the year for 2024 is PRAMSECTA. I don’t know why.

Feel clear and confident about your direction in life!


Do you wish you could follow your heart, but it seems impossible? I can help you find the clarity and courage you need.

In other words, I can help you find your path.